I am no expert on love,
But I have a few suggestions to keeping your love alive.
1- Don’t fall asleep angry. But if you do, wake up in the middle of the night and hold her as close as you can.
2- Laugh during sex, especially if you bump heads. If you aren’t laughing, you’re with the wrong person.
3- If you don’t feel comfortable dancing naked with your partner and showing them your four chins when you laugh, you’re doing it wrong.
4- Romance isn’t for everyone, but a post-it note in their lunchbox telling them they’re the best will never go amiss.
5- Don’t cling to them at parties. Dance with friends and spend time with acquaintances, but wink at each other across the room.
6- Keep everything 50/50, or you will fall out of balance.
7- Stop comparing your relationship to others- you are you, don’t try to be someone else.
8- Be kind. Give them space when they need it, but be their home when they come back.
9- Be proud to love them.
10- Support them through whatever they do in life, even if it’s a stupid decision. People need to make their own mistakes, but be there if it falls apart, and never say ‘I told you so’.
And most of all, love with your whole heart, or don’t love at all.

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I can’t stop watching this. Its incredible how everybody else in the car ducks down after President Kennedy is shot, except Jackie. She puts her arm around him and doesn’t even think to lower herself. 




There are so many reasons not to compare your child to others. Whether it’s to a sibling or the child of a friend, subjecting your child to comparisons damages their self-esteem and makes them feel inadequate. Yet many parents feel it somehow reflects on their child or themselves if their child isn’t as ‘good’ as others. Here are some important reasons not to compare your child to others …

One of the really important reasons not to compare your child to others is that it hits their self-esteem hard. How would you like to be constantly compared to others? Low self-esteem issues usually have their root in childhood, so don’t make your child feel that they’re inferior to others. You don’t want them getting conceited, but nor do you want them feeling worthless.

Each child is an individual, and has their own talents and interests. Why does it matter if one child is musical and another isn’t? The non-musical child may be good at sports or love reading. One thing is not better than another, and neither is one child better than another. Let them develop their own interests and abilities. They should not feel that they have to be more like a sibling or your friend’s child.

Direct comparisons can make a child feel very resentful. When it’s made clear to them that they’re not as good as a sibling at something, they not only feel bitter towards you, but also towards the sibling. Do you really want to foster antagonism between your children? No you do not. So avoid comparisons; even if you think they won’t find out, someone may tell them.

You may be surprised at how long the memories of comparisons can stay with a child. Long after you’ve forgotten saying ‘why can’t you be more like your brother?’ your child will remember being made to feel that they weren’t good enough for you. The message soon sinks in, even if you didn’t mean for them to feel that way. And it hangs around for a long time.

It also risks creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Over time your child will absorb the message that they’re not good enough, and start to believe it. Why bother trying if they’re not going to succeed? And so that’s precisely what happens. The child is effectively set up to fail.

Childhood isn’t a race to the top; children develop at their own pace. Yet parents often worry because their child isn’t walking at the same age that their friend’s child did, or has a much smaller vocabulary. There isn’t a set timetable for a child’s development though, so don’t worry about when your child reaches their milestones. They’ll do things in their own good time.

Conversely, it’s also wise not to compare your child too positively to others. Do you want your child to grow up thinking that they are superior? Praise is good, but you have to be wary of constantly tell them that they are so much better than others. You’re not doing them any favors if you raise them to be big-headed.

Comparing your child to others is likely to give them a negative image of themselves. 
Parenthood isn’t a competition, and you don’t have to show other parents how much better your child is, or worry that other children are doing better than your own. Gently encourage them to believe in themselves, and help them discover their own abilities. 

Have you ever been compared to a sibling, and how did it make you feel?

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